Sometimes, it feels easier to change everything than to make one small shift that could transform our lives. When faced with challenges, the temptation to overhaul every aspect of our world can be overwhelming—it seems like a quick fix. But the true power of transformation often lies in making subtle, intentional changes. A small shift—whether it’s a habit, mindset, or approach—can spark a ripple effect, leading to greater clarity, motivation, and progress. While big changes feel empowering in the moment, it’s those small adjustments that create lasting, sustainable growth. The key isn’t in changing everything—it’s in choosing the one thing that makes all the difference.

Sometimes, the idea of changing everything can feel like the only way forward. You wake up and realize that the life you’re living no longer aligns with who you are or who you want to be. In those moments, the temptation to overhaul your entire existence is strong. But here’s the truth: while radical transformation can be necessary at times, more often than not, the real power lies in making small, intentional shifts. The beauty of change doesn’t always come from drastic measures; sometimes, it’s the subtle adjustments that spark the most profound growth. In this article, I share my journey of navigating the crossroads between small shifts and radical change, and how both can play vital roles in our paths toward living a more authentic life. Whether you’re ready for a small step or a bold leap, it’s about understanding which choice will bring you closer to the life you’re meant to lead.

The day Aunt Sue drove our U-Haul out of South Carolina is one I’ll never forget. As we pulled away from Daddy Number Two’s house, she glanced at me with a sly grin and said, “We gotta get you guys outta here. That man’s got eight wives locked in his basement.”

At the time, I didn’t know whether to laugh or be terrified. I took her words literally, filing them away with all the other odd, fragmented memories of my childhood. It wasn’t until I was in my 20s that I realized Aunt Sue’s stories were more than just jokes—they were her way of navigating a life full of hardships with humor as her armor.

Aunt Sue, the oldest of three siblings, had been through a lot. Life in the small town wasn’t always kind, and Granddaddy, with his tough love and hard lessons, was a man who could be as mean as a snake. Yet, Aunt Sue always faced life head-on, armed with a quick wit and a story for every occasion.

But even then, even as a little girl, I understood something deeper: we were running. Running toward something better, or at least something different. It wasn’t just a physical escape—it was a symbolic one.